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November 2009 
What is amazing about today?
Zephyr
Sadly on the news today a 17 month old boy died of multiple injuries perpetrated by the parents who should have been protecting him, amazingly despite being on the at risk register and visited regularly by social services, he had a broken back, broken ribs multiple other bleeding injuries - on a par with being in a road traffic accident.
Amazed that any parent could do this to their own child, I pray they improve surveillance so that no other child suffers like this.
Amazing cavalcade of cloud shapes that scudded allegro accoss a blue sky, sunshine after endless grey days and rain, our pond is overflowing and flood warnings everywhere The brisk wind filled two lines of washing with the beautiful scent of woodland., who needs chemical perfumes, lol. Watching the jackdaws see off a rather self important magpie near their nest site. In between Mums care I still managed to tidy the greenhouse. Plants are still growing, not yet dormant. My partner went to work despitea nasty injury crushing a finger.
A link on recognising the signs of child abuse
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm
a link on recognising elder abuse
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/elder_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm
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I pray with you, I so do! If not for good signals such truths would completely floor me. It is changing; it is changing.
Bless you my friend. Sherri
i pray for planetary transformation and collective healing.
amazing grace,
samme
I will send a special thought to the little boy, and hope that the family , have learned a lesson , and get some help.
You know my son assulted me awhile back , and some people blame me.
I asked him to watch his mouth , and be respectful , and he just went wild.
People do not understand what the steam of the trouble is.
He was haveing stress , at school , and then he was with his grandfather before.
Who knows what he said to my son , as then he exploded on me.
For me I just held him , and he is one strong boy , and I told him I loved him over , and over again.
I really can't blame my child , as what is he being fed from other people to make him act like this.I am not say what he did was a good choice.
As we had a few tough days after that.
Yet he knows that I love him , and tell him know matter what , and we work things out.Always!
Thanks for sharing , as each day we have new things happen , and it is so important to see the brighter side of it all.
Then tomorrow is another day.
Love,
Lori
I actually just read about that story a couple hours ago. I was saddened the little baby's life consisted of torture soley. I like to think that he is an angel now-safe in heaven. It is amazing.
When I read such stories of child abuse it is hard for me to imagine that it is not a higher priority in governement, and that more money is not allocated for the surveillance of parents that are known to do this, but for any parent to smash the dignity and beauty out of a child for whatever reason…..it is hard to imagine, but only to sadly frequent in our society.
Sherri and Samme, thank you for adding your prayers to mine.
Lori, hugs, bless you for being unconditional love for your son, your love was greater than your hurt, that kind of love snowballs and is much needed in this world.
Love Child, my thoughts too, the creator is unconditional love, just what that poor child needs now.
Michael we must have posted at the same time. It is quality that needs improving, this famiy had 60 visits from social services and police over a few months, and was seen by a specialist recently, reportedly they missed the broken ribs and back . Apparently, the social worker was too ready to believe the mothers excuses, did not focus enough on the child who was her client.
I have no words….this is a SHOCK!!!!
Ahhh Gael~
I love how you are able to see the amazing contrasts of life. The layers of amazing horror and beauty co-existing. I am amazed by the paradoxes. There is this terrible side and at the same time there are birds singing and a sweet wind blowing.
Thanks for the great post!
A shock that can happen anywhere Eli, this shock happened in a built up area, where was neighbourlyness? but where was the love? the compassion? the helping hand? How could it happen and no one around noticed - we can't leave it all to the authorities. Could it be going on behind closed doors in our own neighbourhood?
Hi Janet, I believe we need to be aware to all, not just the nice things I used to volunteer with Homestart, helping families who are going through difficulties, but can't do it now I am a full time carer.Sometimes all the family needed was a friend with their interests at heart. Awareness sees both yin and yang
It is estimated that one in three children will face child abuse today, whether it be verbal, emotional, or physical. In 2006 over 600,000 children went missing and were never found. Many of which were targeted by sexual predators and sex slave traders for the sexual black market. Both of these statistics point to both child abuse being deeply prevalent within our world, and that it is in every community and neighbourhood.
Michael those are devastating statistics, we have to get real, we have to be positive and work to improve this. I hope this stimulates others to do someting, like join homestart, visit a vulnerable at risk lonely family , give to a child charity.etc.
I am a current grad student in social work, one of my papers I will be working on is about human trafficking of women and children. Mariane Pearl has a great book out called, “In Search of Hope.” She interviewed 2 courageous women who are working to stop sexual exploitation of women and children in their countries. We can do so much to stop this from happening. Anybody know any experts in this area?
I think there is a lot to be said for women chaperoning young girls or boys and being vigilant, knowing where they are and who they are with. Often the perpetrator is a friend or family member, often the perpetrator has been first been abused and a cycle continues. Also study the children abused children do not play trust and interact as normal,
I can't help but be angry when I hear stories like this..and sad too, all the while knowing that my anger is pain really, empathy for this poor little child who just wanted to live..or maybe at the end, to be free of all that pain; I can't even imagine, (so I guess I can't really empathize) how it must feel to be that age and be beaten so badly. I was certainly abused myself for years, but not like that, more psychologically and emotionally, but to not be able to escape and feel safe at home is awful indeed. Stuff like this really hurts, mostly because I am helpless to do anything about it.
If you don't mind, I would like to take this discussion over to the Ethics and Integrity Pod. Please let me know and I will also ensure that you are able to participate if you are not yet members.
Thank you. Sherrilene
So shocking! Joining you in prayers! May his parents be transformed miraculously!
We have a friend from another country who had been regularly visiting here since about 3 years. One day we received a phone call from him that he had been arrested by police and put in jail for alleged child molestation and sexual abuse. At first we thought it must have been a frame up. Hard to accept that a friend could do such a thing! He was deported to his country last year and recently the courts in both countries reached a consensus that he was guilty as charged. His laptop was seized and authorities found photos as evidence. We continue to pray for him and the children victims.
Nancy, yes children deserve better, no one deserves abuse, I can imagine, having suffered abuse how it might make you feel angry. Over here they are taking children from violent home situations and teaching them anger management, so that the cycle is not perpetuated.
Sherri, thank you for stopping by, that sounds an interesting pod, you are welcome to do that.
Mila, phew, that must have been a shock., they do say most are within or close to families.
Frankly, I never 'realized' I was abused until I delved into the definition of it and thought 'yeah, that was abuse alright' but I can't imagine anyone not being angry when they hear of situations like this little boy..and wishing they could do something do stop the violence, and pain.
Sadly, it happens. The public needs to educate themselves on the signs of abuse and not be afraid to be heard. Children won't speak because of their fear, but if they do, people choose not to listen because they “must be dreaming” or it “must be their imagination.”
Sometimes, I wish that people had stepped forward … had noticed what was happening to me as I was growing up. Somewhere along the line, myself & my mother may have been protected. Thank goodness my sister does not face the same situation.
God gives us people like you, Gael - people who choose to make the message known that actions like this are not to be tolerated & are disturbing. Thank you for sharing this and allowing for all the people that commented on your blog to make a difference just by speaking.
And on a positive note, thanks for sharing your experience with nature! Woodland perfume! Ahhh….
Love & hugs.
Doll face, what I feel is pain inside for the childs pain, and an overwhelming sadness that some humans are still capable of this, there was more on the TV tonight apparently they tortured the childs genitals, pulled out a fingernail, and left the child in soiled nappies till it bled. I have in the past, in the course of my work alerted the authorities when I suspected child abuse and my suspicians were correct, one was an older sibling of my patient, having three children myself I realised how withdrawn the child was, it has a profound effect on a child. it was found to be yet another generation of abuse where the cycle of abuse continued through three generations, social services acted and thechild was released from her abuse. It doesn't just happen with children, but abuse can happen with the elderly too and we need to be alert to that also.
Rachel, like you I wish peope would notice, even when a child doesn't speak there are signs, but if they do speak we should believe them, it can't be easy for them to tell, most have been trhreatened with dire consequences if they do
Hello Zephyr, When I was about seven or eight I came into the house on a hot summer day and asked mother for a glass of water. I was persistent as any one of my age group would be who was thirsty. My mother after repeatedly telling me to get out of the house charged and pushed me with such force and frustration that she sent me halfway across the kitchen floor and head first out the back door window.
At least one piece of glass was lodged in my neck and throat protruding out like some twisted bleeding icicle.
Now after the glass was taken out and before I passed out from blood loss my mother said to me ” tell them that you fell” ” tell them that you fell, please”
repeating it and repeating till I guess I did.
Now I have as a adult always wondered why I did this and could not help think because it is children do not lie to themselves, not intentionally. For what I heard that day was sorry and shame for the act of needless aggression and as a kiss heals many a wound in a child so do acts of kindness, yet what I did not realize that my mother was lying to herself.
That to me was to become one the greatest lesson I had to learn in order to understand why she acted as she did for how she was treated as a child was far worse then ever was I, being tormented herself till she believed the lies yet it does not make it right. So if I ever was to break this abusive strangling chain it was something I had to come to accept first.
For though we are capable of great light we can and do tell ourselves some of the most hideous lies, and that before any of them are committed we first tell them to our inner selves. And that if any of us are every going to change the chains that bind us we must first examine and always pay close attention to the ones we put around our own hearts first.
I grew never to hate my mother for then everything that destroyed her would have continued to destroy others and I thought that was the least I could do for the lies she had been told that tormented her so.
Thanks
Just me, another sad tale of how the abuse cycle continues unless someone is brave enough to end the cycle, your story shows just how easy it is for an adult to see that the child does not divulge the cause of injury .You show much inner strength, love forgiveness and understanding of why your mother was so tormented.That is what makes the whole thing so sad the perpetrator often does abuse as a result of their own experience of abuse. It is natural for a child to love a parent, the lie about the accident was not your fault, you must have been in shock at the time. Hugs, thank you for bravely sharing these insights, it sounds like a very traumatic memory.